Reminisence

   A trip down memory lane. That's what had happened when I'd have this site opened again. It suddenly popped into my head I was thinking about improving my writing and language. Where could I go to practice, publish something, or even improve my typing skills. I was somehow diverted back to this site which I've not opened for years!

   The last time I was here, my status on papers were still "Single". I now not only fill in the section for "Spouse", but also "Children". Yes, I'm now a happy husband to a lovely and supporting wife, and also a proud father to a very intelligent 9 month old girl who mirrors most of how my wife is, which is a good thing, mind you. 

   Thinking back, like all relationships I'm sure, there were ups and downs. But we made it to this stage. Still trying to "get there", but definitely on the right tracks now. You see, people always ask me, "How does it feel like getting married? Are there any differences from before and after marriage? How would you know if that person is the one for you?" At first, I was somewhat clueless on how to answer these questions. The words were never there for me to explain to them as I still consider myself as a "newbie" in this department.

   As time passed, I learn slowly, on how to answer those questions properly, if not correctly. How does it feel? Awesome. You can't just look at one bad moment, or even one good moment, and focus on it. It must be seen from a holistic point of view. Ups and downs are normal, and expected in all relationships. How you handle it is what matters. "It takes two to tango" they say. As a whole, I'd say my journey so far is great! It's taught me countless various things.

   Regarding the questions, sadly, the only way to know if that person is THE one for you or not, only you can answer. It varies from people. Many factors are to be weighed on to determine your compatibility. Best example, my wife and I. We are the exact opposite of each other in almost everything! But, that is what pulls us closer together. Like Ying and Yang, North and South, Bread and Butter; you get the drill. 

   How I realised this? "Dude, what you gonna tell her when you wanna go for you massage?" Just tell her I'm going for a massage, what's the big deal? Not like there's gonna be any hanky-panky. "Careful when you're checking out that chick, your wife might catch you." She was the one who pointed it out for me in the first place. Yeap, you read that correctly. "Doesn't she get jealous if you were to hang out with a female colleague or friend, vice versa?" Jealous, maybe, maybe not, most probably not. Be apparent about it, no point of hiding it, and have trust. 

   Basically, if you think that you've built a solid foundation, you're going in the right direction. The only things that could be the obstacles are those on each other's respective opinions, and trying to get each other to accept and respect that. Having said, I dare say that the both of us have matured a great deal since we first started dating.

   I've ranted for a while now, and pretty sure strayed away from my apparent topic. Let's see if this would finally be the time where I'd maintain writing as a regular thing. Might have to focus on certain topics only tho. Till then.

Always smile,

Qarper

Test Drive

Hey peeps! Been ages since I've blogged. Since ages since I even read another's blog post. Well, there's a whole lotta things to talk about since my last post (which I'm very sure was about a year ago.)

Unfortunately, this particular post is just for me to test this new app if it could actually post effectively and enable me to post on the go.

Till next time my lovelies,

Smile always,
Qarper
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The Month of December

  Greeting peeps! I mentioned in my previous post, that I'd try to not post once a month. Well, in a way I didn't. The last post was in October, and now, it's December. Now it's basically once in TWO months. Shame on me. 

  Anyways, things are almost still the same. Still juggling the three (work, studies and life) around. I've got four more assignments to go, due in about 2 weeks. Feeling the pressure now. I never thought that I'd actually make an effort this time. I'm taking it more seriously than before. Not good enough, but hey, at least I'm going somewhere. At least I'm on the right track. 

  I've tried to change myself recently. In as many ways as I can, for the better. But it seems that, the more I try, the more reasons people give me not to change. I wouldn't mind much if it's coming from people that I couldn't really care less about, but this is mostly coming from the people close to me. I don't know, sometimes it seems like they're on my side, sometimes it seems as if they're sole purpose of life is to bring me down, lower than the ground. Maybe it's their way of telling/teaching me that I need to buck up on my life and be stronger. If I can't survive what they give me, what makes me think I can survive the world out there, who wouldn't even think twice about how it would impact my life. 

  I'll agree, it has made me stronger in certain ways. I noticed that I've changed a bit, for the better of course, due to what has been thrown at me. I guess I have to actually thank them for this, regardless of whether it's on purpose or not. 

  What I've learned so far, after starting my journey into the real world, you can depend on others, especially those closest to you. What you can't do is to depend on them a 100%. You have to be ready, everytime, and be prepared to be let down by them. You'll never know what happens. But at least, if you have this kind of mind set, you'd be able to go through it without a problem. Just look up, suck it all up and move on with life. It's not like they pierced through you with a real knife or sword or anything. "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never kill me." Try to embed that into your brain, and with god's will, you'd be able to do just fine in life. 

  Alright, I guess I should better be heading back to my assignments now. I'll try (again) to post more often than before. Hope all is well with all of you. Till next time.

Lots of Love,
Qarper
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Random

Hey peeps,

  Just wanna update something since I'm already on here. The layout is way different than the last time I came on. Feels so foreign. Anyways, after checking my previous posts, I realised something. I've only been updating once a month now. I hope this would not go on as such. I've not much time in my hands anymore. I've got a job that requires me to have my own research done after work, and I've continued studying part time which I'd have assignments to take care of every week. 

  Classes would be on every Saturday. Except for last Saturday though, it was canceled last minute. We were all informed the night before. Not sure why. At least I have some time for a breather. Otherwise, it'd be my research after work, and right away followed by my assignments, repeatedly every day. 

  I plan to be done with the assignments from every class before the next class. That's why I have such schedule for myself. I just need to get myself more disciplined and everything would go according to plan. That's the worrying bit there actually. Well, at least it's going on well so far with me juggling work, studies and life all at the same time. 

  Just a reminder to myself, keep it up, get better and finish it all. A bright future awaits you if you don't screw anything up now. And to all those peeps out there, till next time, good luck and all the best for whatever it is you do. May you all succeed and achieve all you'd wanna achieve.

P.S- Good luck to all students taking PMR examinations this week! 

Best wishes and regards,
Qarper
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A Different Feeling

Feeling somewhat down, not myself, kinda different. Cause: unknown

This is really unfair. My heart is feeling rather under the weather, and it's not telling me why. The thing is, I knew this was gonna happen the second I got up this morning. I woke up in darkness, gloomy surrounding, like that off a sad scene from a movie. Or maybe even a scene from a movie from the dark ages, I'm not sure. What's sure is that this feeling is making me feel so restless, makes me feel like a time bomb. I hate that.

You see, i may be the type of person who has almost the same face for every expression, but that doesn't mean that I like being expressionless. I want explanation on this! Why can't I understand what's going on?!

Okay, I admit, this feeling is very familiar. I believe I've felt this before, but that was a long time ago. Plus, I don't really have a reason to feel this way now. That's the part that scares and bothers me right now.

I hope the day will go on normally. No or not much obstacles to g through, hard obstacles that has a huge connection to this feeling I mean.

So peeps, I'll be back later on I think. Till then, hope you'd all have a great day.

Much love,
Qarper

Hey peeps!


  Wow, this must've been the longest period of time I've stayed away from my blog page. A lot has happened, a lot have changed, a lot has passed and I've gone through and learned a lot of things in the past months that I've been away from my blog. Mostly, it's something to do with life, my life. Who's here to stay, who I can rely on, who's who and what's what. What should be done and what shouldn't. 


  I believe, the last time I updated my blog, it was before I'd started work. I started looking for jobs in january and had worked at 2 places since. One was a company where I had to do telesales, a business development company. 


  Business development is whereby the company would set up conferences, talks or seminars on ways to improve a particular department or position in an organisation. It's not a bad place to work in actually. You'd get to learn a lot about many companies. How they work, what they do, what a specific department does, gain sales experience and ways to talk/persuade people and many more. Yes, it may be hard at first but it basically needs you to improve on your personal and communications skills. After about 3-5 phone calls or so, you'll get the hang of it.


  Then, I joined the Customer Service line in a different company, which, I fell in love with. Not only the place and the people there, the job itself. I enjoyed helping the customers with the queries. The benefits and the environment there was wonderful. The work wasn't really stressful if you look at it in a positive way. The only time where you'd feel stressed or pressured is when you get a disputive customer. You can't really blame them for being so, I mean, if you had a problem with a certain product, I'm pretty sure you'd be pissed off as well right?


  Some things were unavoidable or unsolvable from my end which I had to escalate to another or relevant department to handle the case, others were alright. It was easy for you to earn extra money each month. You could either do over time, get compliments or even perfect attendance would be taken into account for your incentives. The pay was very good.


One important thing though, that I learned through this journey into the working world. If you're sic, not well or have a medical condition, please, and i emphasize, PLEASE make sure you're really medically fit for the job you choose or at least make sure you have a proper medication for what ever condition that you have. Taking too many medical leaves, be it paid, unpaid leave, and whether you're a permanent or contract employee, will jeopardize your career, especially if you're working in a call centre environment where time and progress is very essential and important for you to excel in the company or department.


  In the past, I used to think that working in a call centre or as a customer service consultant wasn't really a big thing. But now, after having experiencing it myself, it actually is. In fact, here in Malaysia, they're a growing career choice. Some place even requires you to have a diploma or degree to get into their CS department. The pay is good, a bundle of allowances and a whole lot of incentives to be collected. And if your communications skills are on par with their requirements, with a bit of patience, discipline and commitment, you'd climb up their corporate ladder in no time.


  I guess this time, I'll just stop here. A walk through, a glimpse of the working world and environment from my eyes. Hope there's some useful info for you peeps. Till next time, hope you guys all the best in life, no matter what you choose to do, may you do it at your best!


Best wishes, 
Qarper
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Just A Short One

No time, need to rush out. A lot of things to get done today heheh. Anyways, a lot's on my mind right now. I feel like things has changed. Things are being kept and done. What's going on? Why is it not like before where everything's shared? Oh well, that's life I guess. College can't be so perfect now can it?

Hope you guys are all well. Been a very long time since I updated my blog and this time it's a very short one. Next time I'll try to make a longer one. Take care peeps!

Sincerely,

Qarper

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